Sunday, July 5, 2009

Light on relationships


Spirituality is the core and it transcends any religion.The more I attend to my spiritual side the more firmly I feel that religion is not where we ought to stop .

I was watching a video of a discourse by mystic and spiritual guru Jaggi Vasudev. The commonly held perception is that when people have mystical leanings they become loners living in solitude.

Is this true? Do spiritual people not value relationships?

Spiritual people can also be in relationships and fulfill their commitments to the fullest.In fact they can do it much better then the so-called sansari ( worldly) people.Normally, in this world when people get into or find themselves in any relationship, they try to make the most out of the other person. To put it in a better they try to extract happiness from the other person.This becomes the cause of downfall in the long run.Spirituality means finding bliss in oneself and when a truly spiritual person gets into a relationship he uses it as a chance to share this bliss or happiness or joy.I always used to wonder when my Art of Living teacher used to say " relationships are all about giving " . I took it in a very material sense and hence it did not click with me for a long time.

What I realized now can be summed up very easily : " Relationships will truly succeed if you use them as means to express your joy and not to extract joy "

Another analogy is about beggars . Can two beggars beg from each other? .
Obviously No. Then how can two individuals extract happiness from each other in a relationship . It doesn't even sound logical doing so.

The above analogy and scenario was mutual.In some relationships which we generally call "one way traffic" , it so happens that a person looks for happiness in another person and that person in turn is searching for it somewhere else in somebody else.Again a recipe for disaster.Taking the begging bowl in one's hand is perfectly fine but we have to do it for much higher and much nobler causes.

God Bless!


vipasha said...

In my experience whatever gives u misery becomes a source of joy during a different period of time and whatver has given u joy will bring misery in future. Its never ending.

vipasha said...

Anything that brings joy to u will bring misery also. whether it is a guru or relationship.The source which provided joy.....same source will bring misery. Its never ending.

Floyd said...

@Vipasha .. the Guru or relationship never brings misery , the reason for isery lies within us ... That is how I see it.